Unless you have been living under a rock for the past few months, you have probably heard the new song called “Queen” by the gorgeous Jessie J. If you have not heard it, pause, scroll down and take a quick listen. The lyrics melodically repeat the chorus that I just love.
” I love my body, I love my skin, I am a goddess, I am a queen”.
These words are right on time because we are living in a time where there is so much emphasis on how women look, our shapes, our weight, and so on. Generally speaking, it seems like every woman is expected to look perfect, all the time. Women are so closely scrutinized, and it could be very intimidating if you don’t have a good sense of self, and an even bigger dose of confidence.
My daughter and I were in a children’s clothing store looking for a few items for her. She is in a growth spurt right now and her beloved skinny jeans that she likes to wear were a tad bit short. As we settled into the dressing room, she stood in front of the mirror and did a full turn to check herself out. What happened next totally took me by surprise. She turned to the side and sucked her stomach in and started holding her breath. After a few moments, she smiled and said, “that’s better”. I asked what that was all about and she simply said “I just want to see if I still look fat”. I felt the immediate onset of a headache. My mind began to race, and wonder where she had heard this conversation. I asked her who told her she looked fat, and she told me. I was disappointed to know the person who put this on her mind, but I immediately went into super mom damage control mode. I spoke to her and began to encourage her right in that dressing room. So much so that the mom in the dressing room to the right of us told me that she was going to use some of my words to encourage her small daughter when the time came.
Our little girls and grown women alike need to understand that the visual is just icing on the cake, and the things that truly matter are intelligence, character, integrity, the way you treat people, and so many other internal characteristics. Encourage your daughters to love their body, and their skin, no matter what society says is beautiful. Let them know they are so special and should carry themselves like a queen.