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Don’t Be Bitter, Get Better

As I scroll Instagram, and view the comments on various posts…I am always surprised at how many people choose to dump their trash (dislikes, disdain, and, insecurity) under another person’s picture…Isn’t that something? I’m an introvert, so rather than be the center of attention…I enjoy people watching, and observing. From what I observe, there are many, many people that we encounter on a daily basis that are hurting…I’m not referring to the hurt of a broken finger or any type of physical pain. I’m referencing deep emotional pain that sometime dates decades back. Childhood pain, pain from a void that was never properly filled, or even guilt from past decisions that we never released. When we have long standing issues that we don’t address, there can be problems. Thankfully, the scripture teaches us

John 8:36 (NASB)“So if the Son makes you free, you will be free indeed”

The exciting news is that once we are free, we are FREE. But there is a process to get to spiritual freedom. You have to want it, and you have to do the work to get there. So let’s start here. One law in the Law of the Harvest states this, we reap only what we have sown. So if for years, we have been pondering, festering, and lamenting over what a certain person did to us…because that anger and pain has been sown, we can expect to continue reaping of that same kind until we plant another type of seed in our life. Many of us end up with these long standing issues because we only address the bad fruit..not the root (the real heart of the matter).

Hebrews 12: 15 (MSG) “Keep a sharp eye out for weeds (roots) of bitter discontent. A thistle or two gone to seed can ruin a whole garden in no time.”

This scripture advises us to be vigilant of what takes root in our lives. If I go in my backyard and plant apple seeds, (with the right soil, and conditions) I should expect an apple tree to show up. The same applies in our lives. Here is a personal example to make my point. Several years back, I was in a very rough situation in the job I was working. I felt I was doing my best, and I had the experience and qualifications, but I continued to be overlooked for the promotions. I felt trapped because there were some inappropriate things going on in the office, I was not involved but I was well aware and had to sometimes “cover” the issue. I became very angry, stopped speaking to people at work, started participating in the daily complain session in the break room, and listening to what I call angry music. You know that one song that makes you wanna tear everything up. I used to hype myself up all day long with this toxic behavior. It wasn’t long before I was just a grumpy and unhappy as everyone else in the office. Because of what I was feeding myself, I had allowed weeds of discontent and bitterness to take root. The scripture tells us that a thistle or two can cause the whole garden to go bad. Watch out!

Today, I challenge you to examine yourself to see if you have allowed bitterness take root in your life. If you haven’t, good for you, but I encourage you to stay vigilant. If you have, good for you too! It’s been said that the first step to fixing the problem is to acknowledge it. Be prayerful, ask God to remove any and every toxic root from your life. This will not be an overnight thing…so pray for endurance. It may be painful…let’s be real here…some of us hold on to unhealthy or toxic people, places, and things, because they are our crutch. Some of us like the attention we get from having the issue. Take a real honest assessment of what is going on with you and get down to the bottom of it. God wants to do great things in our lives, but we’ve got to get better!

James 1:5 (NASB)”And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing”


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